We Become One Parent and Marry the Other: Relationship Finished By Fax

We Become One Parent and Marry The Other! How Does This Work?

Alicia was no stranger to being disappointed in a relationship. However, the note that came through on the FAX from Jacob was a first.

July 13, 2017

Dear Alicia:

While I have enjoyed these last few months together, I think it is time to be honest. We are not meant for each other. Initially, I was certainly attracted to your incredible beauty and quick wit. We also had many laughs. However, I have been working on getting to healthy in a relationship for a long time. I took the quiz about Becoming One Parent and Marrying the Other. In fact, I attached it just in case you want to try it. The more I think about our time together, I realize that personality wise, you are my dad. While I am still attracted to people like him, this time I am glad I caught it before too much damage was done to either of us.

You are an incredible lady; just not my incredible lady.

I wish you the best.

Jacob.

Oh my God, thought Alicia. Jacob finished our relationship by FAX!

She crumpled Jacob’s FAX and lobbed it into the wastebasket. What was he talking about, “I took the Quiz?” What does he mean, We Become One Parent and Marry the Other?  She thought for a moment and then looked down into the basket and saw the word Quiz. She pulled up the paper, flattened it , and began the process.

We Become One Parent and Marry The Other! How Does This Work?

Mom and dad’s relationship implants the model of who is perfect for us. If your parents loved each other and were respectful, kind, considerate, and had no major problems, then thank God. Moreover, you are probably not reading this because you have already found Mr. Perfect for You!

However, if your parents have issues, you will assume the issues of one parent and be comfortable with the issues of the other. This crosses over male and female.

A Quiz

1.Circle the qualities that are like your mother.

 MOM

Abusive

A great role model

A poor role model

Addicted to alcohol, pain killers, prescription medication

Calm

Does not drink

Domineered

Domineering

Drinks too much and too often

Dull

Fragile

Full of gloom

Full of life

Funny

Generous

Irresponsible

Irritable

Kind

Loving

Sarcastic

Smart

Stingy

Stupid

Whiney

Wonderful

Work-a-holic

Other Qualities: _________________________         

          _________________________

           _______________________

 2. Circle the qualities that are like your father.

DAD

A player

Abusive

Addicted to alcohol, drugs, prescription medications

Calm

Cold

Does not drink

Drinks too much and too often

Dull

Full of gloom

Full of life

Generous

Great sense of humor

Hard working

Hot tempered

Irresponsible

Irritable

Intractable

Kind

Lazy bum

Loving

Passionae

Passionless

Peter Pan

Rigid

Severe

Stingy

Work-a-holic

Other: _______________________       

          ________________________

           _______________________

3. Which parent’s personality/lifestyle/attitudes are closest to your own? Mom or Dad?   __________________

4. Re-visit the qualities of the opposite parent. You will be comfortable with this type of man or woman!  Those qualities are:

___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

As you get to know people during the first three months in the dating game, if you are different from this parent, he will not move forward with the relationship. And, that is why he/she is not attracted to you or you to him.

More importantly, if you keep dating the same type of man, and he is your mom or dad, this is with whom you have learned to be comfortable.  So. if that is not what you want; it is what you have to change.

What’s Next?

If you want to change who you attract, you must start to recognize your comfort zone personality and make changes.  Once you change, the person you attract will be different.