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- excessive rage, spending, working,
- abusing pills, alcohol, drugs
- 0r being threatened, controlled, cheated on?
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Lesson One: Cognitive (Thinking) Distortions: BLACK AND WHITE THINKING (all-or-nothing thinking) Your friend Carol says: “If I can’t get Jason to ask me to marry him, I will never date again.” Ever had similar feelings? How did you challenge it? What would you say to your friend? a. You are right Carol, in this whole world, Jason is the only man you should marry. b. Only you deserve to be Jason’s wife, because you are both so special. c. There are over 7. 175 Billion people in the world. No chance you would ever meet anyone else, among them, to marry?
Lesson Two: Catastrophizing: (or magical thinking) You believe you can magically predict the future without considering any other possibilities.
Sidarthur says, “I can’t go into the elevator. If it gets stuck, I won’t be able to breathe, I will be stuck there forever, and I will never see my baby again.”
Ever had similar feelings? How did you challenge it? What would you say to your friend?
a. You are right. Stay out of the elevator. Anything can happen.
b. Elevators are in air shafts; you can’t run out of air.
c. The Fire Department will rescue you. Do you know anyone in this country who is still living in an elevator because the FD didn’t come for them?
D. The building that owns the elevator wants it back. They will make sure you get out.
The right answer: (a), (b), (c,) (d,) (a and b), (b,c,d)
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